I want to talk about something I hear constantly — and I mean constantly — from people who finally make it into my office. "I almost didn't come because I didn't think things were bad enough." And then we spend the next 50 minutes unpacking years of stuff they've been carrying quietly, managing alone, and convincing themselves didn't count as a real problem. So let's just get this out of the way early: the idea that you have to be falling apart to deserve therapy is one of t